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lanii:
you need to fucking stop.
you have told me several times that you aren’t going to talk to me anymore, and yet you continue to do so and now even post a picture of me on your blog. it’s fucking bizarre, jeff, and i honestly feel uncomfortable (and have for a while)
to which i replied,
I appreciated this message and actually told many people in the doll crew that you had apologized to me in a non-creepy manner and that it was all good. but no. it was not so.
my favourite part about that message is you said you could be “less passive-aggressive” and then processed to deal me a passive-aggressive backhanded compliment!! way to go!!!
please stop sending me messages and for the love of god, don’t post fucking pictures of me on your blog. you have told me previously that “[your] girlfriend gets a little jealous” so why would you do this?? please just leave me alone. i understand that i obviously hurt you pretty badly but it’s just been so long and it’s gone too far, you need to get the FUCK over it.
Lani I understand completely that you somehow feel a mild inconvenience by me saying something nice about you, but it was completely inappropriate for you to bring this situation to the public. I do however have complete understanding for those who would read your post and think me some sort of stalker. But you understand Lani, those were things we talked about, if you havent personally called your mouth derpy a billion times, I swear to god.
Anyway, at the root of the matter, i’ve sent you a few messages over the last year. Yes that one was pretty messed up, I’m not saying you deserved it, but if you keep dealing with people like you did with me, yes Lani, you are going to break someone. You made me think we were friends, you made me think I could trust in you, you invited me over then didn’t speak with me until a year later with the reply quoted above.
I sincerely apologize for any animosity i’ve sent your way, as for everything else, either learn how to treat those around you with respect, or learn to deal with a few messages a year. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.
P.S. - Cadney: Thank you for the well chosen words, in all of this, that was very reasonable of you.
1) MILD INCONVENIENCE? How about no. You do not get to tell people how they should feel. If she says your contacting her makes her uncomfortable, then it makes her uncomfortable. Maybe your messages just makes her feel awkward, maybe they ruin her day or [heaven forbid] trigger an anxiety attack. Get off your high horse and acknowledge yours aren’t the only valid feelings here.
2) You won’t leave her alone. She tried to resolve this privately. You didn’t listen; so now she brings it to our attention. Sometimes issues have to go public. Why should she have to suffer continually in private when she has asked you to stop?Sometimes a public shaming is in order.
3) So she may have privately said her mouth was derpy. However the way you phrased the “compliment” was akin to saying “Hah, do you remember when you were a big fat whale? You’re so skinny and pretty now!” It’s totally insulting to be ‘complimented’ like that. It says that at one point the person was less attractive. Where is the kindness in that? Even if you honestly thought those things, why would you tell her? That’s uncalled for.
4) Why is it Lani’s responsibility to ensure you feel alright? Why should she have to care if you get “broken” in the process of her breaking contact with you? Dude, you can’t impose your feelings on her like that. NOT COOL. You are both adults and if you can’t handle her stopping contact like an adult, that is not Lani’s fault. Do not try and guilt her into feeling sorry for you in any way. She doesn’t deserve that. She doesn’t owe you anything, stop treating her like she does.
5) Animosity? Nope! Not animosity. Animosity might be preferable to the creepy, cloying nature of the messages. Treating Lani like she owes you something or is some awkward third piece of your relationship isn’t animosity, it’s weird. Really, you should be [genuinely] apologizing for continuing to bother her when she has expressed the messages make her uncomfortable.
6) FUCK. NO. Why should she have to “treat you with respect” when you can’t respect her wishes? You won’t leave her be. Why should she have to be the nice one? She told you to stop. MOTHERFUCKING STOP. I cannot adequately express just how unsettling, creepy, scary and oft times TERRIFYING men like you can be. I don’t care if that’s not your intention. To me, that’s how those messages read. How dare you demand respect and courtesy from her when you can’t respect her wishes. She shouldn’t have to deal with ANY messages.
Seriously, get off your high horse and learn to deal with your feelings like an adult. You made her feel uncomfortable, that’s why she stopped talking to you. Can she be any more clear?!
She can have her cake and eat it too. For you to grouse over this for upwards of a year shows you lack much in the qualities that make a good friend.
Call me a raging harpy all you want but I have dealt with guys like you far too often for my liking. It is easier for us ladies to simply NOT talk to you EVER again. Lani has made it clear she’d like to end ALL CONTACT. She’s not forcing you to look at her photos or messages, YOU are. Be the solution to your own problem and stop.
Seriously. Stop it.
YEAH!! SMARTEN UP, YA STUPID BITCH.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lz38v5TIjn1qztntko1_1280.jpg)
"That's not our demographic.": Monday, AMIRITE?
It’s technically Monday already. Jeez.
So, I’m officially done doing “Round-Up” posts for the time being. There’s just a little too much coverage going on to be able to handle it. Plus, everybody here is in the loop, right?
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